The worst emotional pain comes from having a partner cheat on you. It fills you with rage, bitterness, and confusion, especially when you find out that they were not only unfaithful but they are keeping a side chick.
Some women are bold enough to walk out of the relationship regardless of their status, dating, or marriage.
Others take it out on their partner and confront them for their conduct, perhaps even giving them ultimatums.
However, it’s natural to want to provide the side chick a piece of your mind by sending her a warning message.
But before doing so, there are several factors to consider. Let’s look at a few.
When Should You Send a Warning Message to a Side Chick?
Sending a warning message to a side chick isn’t always the right solution. Before considering it, ask yourself if it’s worth the effort, time, and emotional energy.
Sometimes, walking away saves you from being caught up in any drama.
What if you have made up your mind to send the warning message to the side chick? When is the most opportune time to do it?
Some men are deceptive. I can’t recall how many times I’ve seen a married man walk up to a single chick and pull his cards as a single guy.
Are you certain that the other woman is aware of your existence?
We live in a world where people keep their personal lives a secret, and truthfully speaking, a huge percentage of married people don’t wear their wedding rings anymore.
Therefore, once you are certain that the side chick knows that your partner is in a committed relationship but continues to pursue him, then it might be appropriate to send a warning message.
Alternatively, if you find out that the other woman doesn’t know that the man she is seeing is in a committed relationship, you could send her a kind warning message to inform her of his status.
But keep in mind that the side chick might not take your message as intended, and she might end up hurling unkind words at you.
Also, your partner could take her side or blame you for meddling in his life.
How effective are Warning Messages in Deterring Side Chicks?
How effective a warning message is depends on the individual situation. In some cases, the side chick may not have known about the committed relationship and may back off after receiving the warning message.
However, in other cases, the side chick may not care about the committed relationship and may choose to continue pursuing your partner.
Additionally, some side chicks may even use the warning message as leverage to manipulate your husband or boyfriend into leaving you.
If you are looking to keep your man once the dust settles or hope to avoid a messy situation, give thoughtful consideration to the words, language, and tone you use in your message.
Here are a few examples.
Examples of Thoughtful Warning Messages to a Side Chick
As mentioned at the onset, finding out that your partner has a side chick can be emotionally traumatizing.
If you’ve decided to send a warning message, try to stay polite, respectful, and composed.
Here are some examples of thoughtful warning messages you can use:
- “Hey, I’m not sure if you’re aware, but the person you’re seeing is in a committed relationship. I don’t want to fight or cause drama, but I need to make sure that you know what’s going on.”
- “I’m writing to you because I care about the person you’re seeing and want to ensure that you are aware of the situation. I know that it’s not your fault, but I hope that you will consider ending things before anyone gets hurt.”
- “Hey girl! Just a kind reminder; a cheater will always be a cheater. The same way he’s cheating on me with you is the same way he will cheat on you with another woman.”
- “I come in peace. If you can find it in your heart to let my man go, I will be eternally grateful. If not for me, do it for his kids.”
- “Let me guess, he said it is you he loves, right? Ask yourself, if you were the one, why does he still come home to me? Watch out for your own heart.”
- “As painful as it is for me to say this, I don’t blame you. You did not make a promise to be faithful to me; he did.”
These messages show that you are looking out not only for your own interests but hers as well. Such kind messages are more likely to trigger a positive response than picking a fight.
Are There Any Legal Implications to Sending a Warning Message to a Side Chick?
In general, there are no legal implications to sending a warning message to a side chick.
However, if the message contains threats, harassment, or defamation, it could lead to legal repercussions.
Be careful with what you say, and ensure the message is respectful, informative, and to the point.
Alternative Ways to Handle the Situation Instead of Sending a Warning Message
Sending a warning message might not be the best or only way to handle the situation since you do not know what to expect from your partner or the side chick.
Here are some alternative ways to deal with a cheating partner:
- Seek professional counseling to help you work through the emotional trauma and decide what’s best for you.
- Have an honest and open conversation with your partner to understand why they cheated and if they’re willing to work on the relationship. Avoid giving ultimatums, which will only make him more stubborn. Instead, try to reason with him to help him see what’s best for both of you.
- If he is not willing to leave his side chick, end the relationship and find someone who meets your standards and is ready to treat you with respect and loyalty.
Closing Thoughts
Sending a warning message to a side chick is a personal choice that requires a thoughtful approach.
Consider all the scenarios and decide what works best for you. Make sure that you are capable of staying calm and displaying kindness in your message to avoid getting into a confrontation and legal implications.
Remember that cheating is never your fault, and the side chick is not to blame for your partner’s infidelity.
You, like everyone else, deserve to be with someone who values and respects you.
