Let us face it: many men are fighting unending wars in their marriages and are looking for the right shoulder to cry on.
Others are just after exploring their hidden romance and would greatly welcome the idea of having another romantic relationship besides their marriage.
And what is the best place to achieve this if not through a side chick?
Getting a side chick as a married man is not as hard as most men think.
The fact that there are a lot of women looking for romantic relationships with no strings attached means any man can get as many women as he wants.
The problem, however, is how to approach them and keep the relationship away from the main chick or wife.
Therefore, if you want to have a side lover as a married man, here are some tips to master.
Disclaimer:
This post does not intend to promote cheating in relationships or marriages. Our mission is to see marriages stand happily.
As such, all married men should value trust, loyalty, honesty, mutual understanding, and emotional vulnerability to keep healthy marriages.
If you have concerns or issues in your marriage, we highly recommend that you address them through open and honest discussions with your partner or seek professional help.
How to Get a Side Chick
As a married man, you may desire to have another relationship outside your marriage that allows you to unwind and forget all the troubles at home.
That is especially if you have a menacing goat wife that does not give you peace of mind or the joy of getting married.
But how do you find a side chick?
Well, if you wish to have a side chick that knows her place, consider the following tips:
1. Know where to find peaceful side chicks
The first rule to get a peaceful side chick is to know the right place to get her.
Most men look for wife-material women in churches, mosques, or any other social occasion.
These places may not favor men looking for side chicks because such women want commitment and are ready to settle down.
To get a side chick, try fun places like bars, party houses, or online dating apps like Tinder.
Tinder, also known as a hookup app, is the best place to get a side chic because it allows you to specify your intentions when signing up.
However, you should take time to perfect your profile and stand out above other men to get the right responses.
On the other hand, bars are ideal for men looking for party queens who are only after fun and not commitment.
However, it is advisable to go with your wingman who will watch over and protect you when things go messy.
2. Keep the conversation fun and interesting
Remember, the primary reason a girl will accept to be your side chick is if you give her what she wants.
That means, besides monetary benefits, you should also be ready to entertain her at all costs and keep your conversation interesting.
Therefore, avoid boring conversations, both in person and in text, or you will lose her to the next available man.
Learn basic conversation and texting tips to keep your new catch engaged and give her reasons to be with you.
3. Tell her your intentions
Most ladies will not ask men if they are looking for long-term relationships or simply some kind of emotional attachment with no marriage in the equation.
It is upon the married man to let the lady know that he is not looking for something serious.
It is frustrating to sell any lady your marriage dream and then dump her when she starts building the future with you.
So, to avoid disappointing her, tell her your intentions right away and ask her if she is cool with that.
4. Sharpen your looks
Most girls want neat and intelligent men, and would not settle for someone they cannot go out with.
So, whether you are looking for a short-term relationship with your side chick or not, learn to sharpen your looks and be attractive.
Your intelligence alone is also enough to attract women to you, and they will not bother if you are married or not.
You should also check your network and ensure you are surrounded by friends of the same mindset as yours.
5. Define your boundaries
Having a side chick means you are putting your marriage at risk.
Hence you should be careful with your game to prevent your wife from finding out about your hidden relationship.
The only way to be careful is to set boundaries with your side chick and let her know her place.
That means, during your initial communication, let her know when is the right time to call, text, or even see you.
Although a side chick gives you some companionship, it is wise to think, decide, and communicate your rules.
Also Read: How Often Should You See Your Side Chick?
6. Avoid catching feelings
Men will admit that most ladies develop strong feelings after three months of being in a relationship.
That is the time when they will start asking their men for some kind of commitment and getting mad at little things like working late.
As a married man, you should look out for these signs and avoid developing strong feelings for each other, unless you are ready for commitment.
Remember, as much as the lady may accept to be a side chick, she will not stay in that position forever and may start asking for a ring on her finger.
Consequences of Having Side Chicks When Married
While getting a side chick allows you to explore your hidden bedroom antics and calm your mind, it can have some significant consequences on your marriage and personality. These include:
- A side chick will increase your expenditure: To maintain your wife and side chick, you will need to spend more, leading to financial stress. Some side chicks will also force you to buy their silence or threaten to expose you to your wife if you do not meet their demands.
- You or your side chick will lose respect for your wife: Most side chicks think they are more valuable than goat wives and will demand more attention from you (the man).
- Your decision may also influence your children who will grow up knowing it is normal to have a side chick or dude. Therefore, you should avoid exposing your kids to your outside relationship at all costs.
- Chances of getting sexually transmitted infections are high, especially if you don’t use protection or your side chick does not commit to you alone.
- Lastly, your marriage is likely to end once your wife finds out about your relationship with another lady.
Wrap Up
We all agree that married men can still have feelings for other women and wish to make them their side chicks.
It is also true that there are a lot of women out there looking for fun-filled relationships that do not necessarily lead to marriage.
However, while having a side chick is the easiest way to enjoy a short-term romantic relationship without commitment, it also poses some risks to your marriage and family.
Therefore, it is advisable to rethink your decision and discuss it with your prospective side chick to avoid crossing the boundaries.
Most importantly, if you have concerns or issues in your marriage, we highly recommend that you address them through open and honest discussions with your partner or seek professional help before you opt for a side chick.
Also Read: I’m Catching Feelings for Side Chick: What Should I Do?
