Going out with someone new can be hard, mainly because you never know what to expect.
And when he calls you up or texts to set up a date for the next meet, you breathe a sigh of relief.
But this doesn’t last, because after each date, you’re going to be left wondering if he will want to see you again.
‘What if he doesn’t find me fun enough?’
‘What if I said something and blew him off?’
‘Maybe there is someone else.’
These and more are the negative thoughts we deal with every second that passes by without the guy texting us after our date.
The society has set up rules to follow for successful dating, like the unarticulated rule that you have to let a certain period of time pass before taking the next step—be it going out for another date, calling or texting, physical expressions and so much more.
This creates a wave of tension and uncertainty, and in some cases, results in a premature ending to something we were just beginning to enjoy.
On the other hand, ladies can be quite impatient (I say this because I’m probably the most impatient woman on the planet).
We are always checking the phone to see if he has texted, or maybe called.
We simply don’t want to miss a call or delay to text back leading him to think we are not interested, right?
And so every 5 minutes without the screen lighting up feels like eternal torment.
To help ease your nerves, let’s see how long it should take a man to text you after the 3rd date.
Societal Expectation
How long a guy takes to text you will tell you if he is interested in going out with you again or not.
Customarily, a guy who texts you two or three days after your 3rd date might be sending signals that he only intends to keep it casual.
Either that, or because he has an ego he’s looking to satisfy by waiting for you to text first.
Whatever the case, that is a clear indicator that he is not looking to commit to a relationship.
On the other hand, a guy who cares will at least text you shortly after you part, maybe in an hour or so to check in and see if you got home okay.
If he dropped you off, he can still text to let you know he got home safe, and thank you for a wonderful time.
The society advises guys to text at least once a day if he is looking to be exclusive with you.
In one of the many rules, it states that a guy texting you immediately after your date is coming off too strong, and might appear pushy.
However, in dating and relationships, most people just flow with their mojo.
A guy who is looking to settle, and is interested in you, will not take too long to text you. It’s really not a matter of ‘should’ or ‘must’ with regard to texting.
By this point, you two have talked about your daily routines and schedules, and a bit of your interests.
If you told the guy that you barely touch your phone in a day, or that you’re not a fan of chatting, how do you just expect him to just text you?
If you would like him to text you, let him know that you don’t mind keeping in touch.
That will incline him to at least text you during your breaks just to check in, maybe with some ‘good day’ and ‘goodnight’ texts to lighten up your face.
Where We Fail As Ladies
He hasn’t texted, maybe only checked in to see if you got home safe, thanked you for your date, and that was it.
So, is that it?
Do you just call up all your friends seeking advice and tell them how much of a ‘douchebag’ the guy is?
This is the 21st century…we don’t have to wait for the guy to reach out.
Remember, he shares a measure of all the fears you have.
He is probably wondering if you are interested in seeing him again. Do not expect him to initiate the conversation.
If he hasn’t texted the following morning, break the ice.
You can just send him a good morning text, and wish him a lovely day.
He might have mentioned he is working on something, or attending a meeting…wish him luck, and let the conversation flow from there.
Word of Caution
If you are the one initiating a conversation all the time, that’s a red flag.
A healthy chat is one where both the parties alternate starting the conversation.
